My Wife Gained Weight – Ladies Room
My wife has gained so much weight. I’ve lost almost all attraction towards her.
Let me start off and be clear. I love my wife. She’s a great person and she balances out my hardened nature with her kindness.
However, I’ve lost pretty much all attraction towards her. When we first met she was never a small gal and that is completely ok, but she has put on probably 200lbs or so since we met. and about 140-150lbs since we’ve been married, and it’s only been 4.5yrs total.
I stopped initiating intercourse gradually, and I honestly didn’t even notice it at first. Not until she broke down and started asking if I was cheating because we hadn’t been deeply intimate for 2-3 weeks. Then I was thinking, “Wow she’s right.” So I started paying more attention, and I really just started noticing why.
The come-to-Jesus moment was when I saw her getting out of the shower, and her stomach flopped over her pelvic area, and her boobs were just resting on her extended stomach. I was just thinking… I have zero interest in my own wife’s body.”
She knows she is overweight. I told her how I’m feeling and that it’s having a direct effect on my physical attraction. I’ve tried encouragement, but ultimately, we’ve fallen back into the sexless marriage routine. She wants kids, and honestly, I can barely maintain an erection during sex, let alone orgasm. I have to pretend I’ve ejaculated, so she is content and doesn’t have an emotional breakdown. I know that is a little bit of enabling, but it seems like that is something I could never tell her.
But I no longer want children with a mother that can’t even go on a hike or do the most mundane physical activities without making an excuse. In a rare instance in my life, I have absolutely no idea what to do. Any ideas on how to broach the subject again with a more successful narrative?
Note: My wife and me are of the same age, 29, and my looks are normal I look fit.